Confidence To Improve Your Life

The best way to build confidence and to gain confidence is to learn and grow a little at a time.

When some people decide they want to build confidence in themselves they aim too high and fall short. They then give up without learning that the easy way to build confidence is to take it a step at a time.

Do you know how to build confidence?

One of the best personal attributes one can have is self-confidence. A positive relationship with others fosters a sense of self-worth that contributes to the image you have of yourself and all this starts when you build confidence.

Even if you are shy and retiring, you can build confidence which you need to propel you from obscurity into a place of honor within your circle of acquaintances.

When you build confidence it can help you develop new friends, and may even help you get that promotion you want at work. Recent research shows that supervisors value your attitude more than your actual knowledge about your job.

The job can be learned, but an attitude is a personality trait that comes naturally to those who know how to gain confidence.

If you are not self-confident, there are techniques that can help you build confidence:

1. You have to invest time to learn how to build confidence. Even those who appear to be very self-confident have faced situations where they were not comfortable in groups and felt alone and rejected. they had to learn how to build confidence just like you.

Observe the actions of self-confident people and make their personality traits yours as well. You can imitate their actions and slowly learn to develop your own personality traits that will lead you to build confidence.

2. Most people dread walking into a room filled with strangers, either at work, conferences or parties. It is difficult to appear to be forceful and confident, but if you practice putting on a happy face, it will soon become second nature for you to do so (and may even help you actually be happy).

How can you build confidence in these situations?

Attend social functions even though you'd rather stay at home reading a book. Practice your confidence-building techniques until they become part of your personality.

3. Appearances count for a lot in projecting an image of a self-confident individual. When interacting with others, don't stay glued to the wall.

Mingle with others and initiate conversations in a friendly, interested manner. Even though you may be quaking with insecurities inside, if you appear self-confident it becomes easier to converse with others and will also make you more approachable. Little by little you will build confidence

4. When you project a self-assured image, you'll find that others respond in a positive manner to your overtures of friendship.

Don't be afraid to join a group or activity that is already in progress. You have something to contribute, and others will know it. A little stretch will help you to build confidence

5. We've all admired and envied the person who has the "gift of gab." They appear to effortlessly engage in conversation in any group on any subject.

These people aren't necessarily born with this ability. For most people it is an acquired trait that is learned over a period of time. You can learn how to build confidence in the same way.

It is important to be in tune with others by observing their expressions, their emotions and body language to know whether they are approachable or genuinely want to be left alone. Remember, though, that even a loner will appreciate a friendly greeting.

6. Being a good conversationalist is essential when learning how to build confidence. Off-the-wall comments, while they do have their place perhaps during a lull in the conversation, are generally avoided.

Your contributions to a conversation need to be on target with the subject being discussed. Easing into a conversation gradually after listening for a few minutes is preferable to simply butting in.

Watch for an opening in the conversation to introduce yourself and make a comment or two; don't hog the conversation.

To build confidence can be a long, arduous process that takes time. Be prepared for rejection some of the time but don't take it as a personal rebuff.

Keep up your self-confident image and practice what you've learned about building self-confidence. It will soon come naturally to you.

Why do you want to build confidence?

What will it give you?

Apart from better relationships at home and at work most people want to be able to get along more easily with people they meet.

And this is where so many people take a wrong turn.

Instead of learning advanced self-confidence techniques which are easy to learn and straightforward to use -- they learn about positive thinking and think that is all they need to do to build confidence.

In the past you were more or less stuck if you wanted to change your habitual ways of dealing with people. And it took a lot of effort to build confidence. The major and new difference now is that there have been major breakthroughs in the field of peak performance.

It is now possible for you to quickly and easily change how well you interact with others and to go from having difficulties to being able to build confidence when dealing with people. Or to go from having good people skills to becoming exceptional.

And this can happen faster than you think. If you really want to build confidence there is nothing stopping you except yourself.